Amendment 1: “Marriage between one man and one woman is the only domestic legal union that shall be valid or recognized in this state.”
– North Carolina law already prohibits same-sex marriage…. so what is this amendment for?
– This means that non-traditional couples who enter into civil unions will be just as valid as two children wearing BFF bracelets.
Now read the wording for the Amendment again. Now, lets put our heterosexual brains back on. **DING** much better, I hate to admit it but I’m not the biggest fan of thinking about other people. Now lets think how does this amendment affect me? I, though newly engaged am still, one of North Carolina’s 222,000 traditional unmarried couples. I’m not married, but I have been in this heterosexual relationship for a few years now. If this amendment passes my heterosexual-religious union is only Facebook Official, now what does that mean? What if I did have a kid, because sometime heterosexual couples spontaneously do that before they get married right? Birds & Bees.
So what would that mean for unmarried men and women in a committed relationship or bound together by children? It means that Amendment One could:
- Invalidate domestic violence protections
-Domestic Violence: violence or physical abuse directed toward your spouse or domestic partner; usually violence by men against women. Since the laws for domestic violence require the parties to be domestic partners or spouses this amendment will legally make domestic violence nonexistent or prosecutable in North Carolina.
- Weaken child custody and visitation rights.
-Sorry baby-daddies, if you didn’t marry her she’s automatically more fit of a parent than you are wheather she’s on drugs, sleeping around, abusive. Since you didn’t marry her that babe is 20000% hers.
- Threaten the right of partners to decide major medical decisions for their partner.
-Because your partner is not legally your partner. So your brother that you haven’t seen in years has more say on whether we pull the plug than someone who you have been with every day for the past 6 years.
- Disallow second-parent adoptions undertaken to ensure unmarried parents have equal legal ties and financial responsibilities for any children they adopt together.
– I like this part since you’re not legally bound to someone through marriage you can’t jointly adopt a child. So if your brother dies and leaves you and your significant other as godparents only one of you can adopt the child & only one of you will be allowed to make decisions, sign, and legally parent the child. Oh and if one of you gets sick or dies the other can legally let the child slip into an orphanage and never have any penalties for abandonment.
– If you got pregnant before you’re married if something happens to the mother (like in childbirth or in a traffic accedent) the father is basically SOL when it comes to claiming his child even if he was there 100% or even 200%
- Invalidate certain trusts, wills and end-of-life directives.
Please, If you don’t believe me, do your research. This Amendment has NOTHING to do with marriage, and everything to do with domestic civil unions. Domestic Civil Unions include dating relationships, friendships, fiance situations, blended families, and other understood union bonds created between people that aren’t courthouse approved marriages. So basically if he beats you but you never walked down the aisle, it’s not domestic violence. Or if you’ve been living together and one of you gets sick or dies, all of your stuff goes to whoever”s family had their name on it last. Oh and if your boyfriend decides to sue you for all the dinner dates he took you out on while you were dating and you decide to start seeing someone else. It most likely applies to you now or it will apply to your children in the future. What parent expects their child to get married to the first person who bats their eyes their way, for legal purposes. Come on, THIS is destroying marriage. Getting married not because of the commitment or the love but because if you don’t you’re taking a bigger risk than if you do. Silliness
At least for women like me, who like to rush into things, now we have a valid reason to.